I have witnessed people who've had toxic relationships, and it breaks my heart to just sit there and watch. BUT it is more heartbreaking if that person accuse you to be a relationship-wrecker, bitter, judgmental and what not. I might have not saved all of my friends from a toxic relationship but I might save you..
At first, they are the power couple. They were the ones spending valentines in an expensive restaurant, getaways and displaying their affection and love at social media.
Those months and first year were the best...until reality sinks in. He flirts with other girls. He doesn't have your best interests anymore. He isn't as concern as he was before. He forgets his obligations to you. He spends his time more often for himself or his friends rather than for the two of you. He always reason out that he is busy at work. He's becoming irresponsible with his duties to you or your home. He doesn't reply or answer your calls immediately. He takes you for granted. He hears you but never listens to you. He isn't honest with you. He cheated on you. He had spoken unimaginable words to you. He already left you but you begged him to come back.
All these things in your relationship but you refuse to see the reality and chose to live in a lie. And you thought you'd forget his shortcomings by spending time on expensive dates or out of town. You will obtain incomprehensible attempt to make everyone believe that you are happy in the relationship. When somebody asks about the two of you, you'd often say you guys are doing great even you're not. People in a happy relationship isn't afraid to tell you that they are having a hard time right now (may or may not be in detail) because they know it will eventually work out. If ever one of your friend sees you having a hard time in your relationship you will obsess in proving her wrong.
But is this the love relationship you ever wished for? Pretentious and heartbreaking?
NO. If it gives you more pain than love then the answer is no. Don't give me the damn excuse that relationships meant to be tested and requires a lot of hard work and understanding. A happy relationship requires TWO people that never gives up on each other. A toxic relationship requires ONE person that never gives up while the other just don't seem to care that much.
Martyrdom isn't always heroic. And becoming one isn't always something you can be proud of.
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